The Sex of Dating & Programming

Dating is very bizarre, well, a lot of the time. I’m sure some people can boast of their success in that realm but one thing is certain: the more logical your mind becomes the harder it is to understand the emotional attachments involved in dating. Luckily, this lady understands the problem well and has suggested: A Geek’s Guide to Dating: Practical Algorithms for Engineers, Scientists, and Computer Nerds.

She gently starts of by asking who a nerd is (using a Jeff Foxworthy[1. See the original “You Might be a Redneck joke here] parody):
+ If you complain you can’t hear someone due to their signal-to-noise (SNR) being too low, you might be a nerd.
+ If a technical girl mentions SVN, Git or heck, Mercurial and you think she’s hot, you might be a nerd.
+ If you think about the moment of inertia whenever you see a woman’s butt shake, you might be a nerd.
+ If you laugh at this joke: “There are only two types of people in this world: those who understand binary and those who don’t,” you might be a nerd.
+ If you think about algorithms and dating, you might be a nerd.

The book contains many interesting formulas (exciting ones!) and practical advise as the title states but sure, there is a difference in theory (as stated in books that should be practical) and utilizing those concept — this is where I though of a divide.

Riding home from work yesterday, I thought, “…if only humans were as predictable as machines.” Yes, the world will be a very boring place and suck, but then, the world will be disaster free. And of cause, folks who are logically [analytically] trying to sort things through will be supreme.

I also thought of the oddness of dating too. You meet a girl (who you haven’t ever met in your life before now), you get attracted to her, maybe you get the courage to ask her out. Hopefully she finds you somewhat attractive too. All of a sudden, your life is all about this just-few-days-ago-a-stranger — even estimate her/him to a higher closeness status than all of those you know almost your whole life. Bizarre.

I’m not surprised actually, the human race is quite bizarre. I think my own difficulty is getting out of the logical zone, to the emotional zone (almost trance-like) that flowing with this bizarre arrangement needs.

Sometimes I geniuely got into that state, and say: “I Love You <3[2. That “<3” represents the love symbol, which surprising really translate to “I Love you lesser than the number 3”] “. The reponse was: “Goodnight!” Maybe there might be an algorithm to that too.

In fact, I think dating is like playing blind-folded chess, you’re constantly guessing if your move is right while thinking and evaluating possible outcomes of your choice and your partner’s.

I should stop here but geeks reading this should get a kick from Heidi’s algorithm for sorting cloths, which I think can be expandable to other areas of the dating life, really, so I’m stating with the original algorithm, abstracting it and then try a working example:

(original psuedo):
while there are some items in the lose
evaluate the status of each item in the closet
if it has any of the following cases: “ripped”, “old”, etc
throw away
otherwise
keep

(my abstraction)
what are you willing to evaluate?
what cases do you want to evaluate it against ?
evaluate

Now the code:

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$to_evaluate;
$cases_to_evaluate = array();
// cases are populated somewhere
try {
for($i=0; $i < sizeof($cases_to_evaluate); $i++){
switch($to_evaluate){
// go through indidual array cases
// act per evaluation, like
case $case_to_evaluate[$i];
// tll what to do ….
break;
}
}
} catch (Exception e) { print “Something went wrong: <br/>”; e->getMessage(); }

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24 Comments

  1. I just finished watching “Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind.” The story made me think of your post and how “bizarre” all of this is 🙂 Do you think if you lost your memory, you would still think logically about dating? Would it be easier to get into that trance-like state? Would you be attracted to the same people you were attracted to before?

    1. @saba in some way, I’m reminded of the philosopher who defines ‘self’ as “a collection of our thoughts”. If my thoughts where erased, I sure wouldn’t be myself — in that case, a reshaping will have to be done to re-form me again and then, the people I love or if I will think about dating in this logic is up in the air — I can’t tell.

      1. @delomos Lol I like the additions, especially the “i love you less than number 3” part. I never saw it like that, its hilarious! As for dating and algorithms…I have NO idea. I think I’m kind of impulsive and have random urges to do things, so when you think it all through like that it doesn’t make any sense to me. It feels so restricting and more trouble than it should be. To me, dating and love happens without planning or thinking about what yours or the other person’s next move would be. You might say it’s stupid but love IS stupid 🙂 But anyway, like you said in one of your other posts, “I am me, be You” 🙂 I won’t try to convince you to be one way or another. Especially not after David tried to scare me with that conversation lol If you haven’t watched the movie I mentioned earlier, you should watch it. I wouldn’t say it’s the best movie ever but it’s interesting. I think you can lose your memory, and be re-formed again but there is always some part of you that’s more than your thoughts. You might not be attracted to the same exact person but you would be attracted to similar people. Again, that’s just my humble opinion 🙂

        1. @saba@delomos you sure you might be correct about not being attracted to the same people you used to be attracted to (that’s why I said you most likely will be attracted to those in alignment with whatever shapes your being).

          And I agree, loving is illogical and sometimes with that illogicality, one still need to respond accordingly…

  2. Lol I like the additions, especially the “i love you less than number 3” part. I never saw it like that, its hilarious! As for dating and algorithms…I have NO idea. I think I’m kind of impulsive and have random urges to do things, so when you think it all through like that it doesn’t make any sense to me. It feels so restricting and more trouble than it should be. To me, dating and love happens without planning or thinking about what yours or the other person’s next move would be. You might say it’s stupid but love IS stupid 🙂 But anyway, like you said in one of your other posts, “I am me, be You” 🙂 I won’t try to convince you to be one way or another. Especially not after David tried to scare me with that conversation lol

    If you haven’t watched the movie I mentioned earlier, you should watch it. I wouldn’t say it’s the best movie ever but it’s interesting. I think you can lose your memory, and be re-formed again but there is always some part of you that’s more than your thoughts. You might not be attracted to the same exact person but you would be attracted to similar people. Again, that’s just my humble opinion 🙂

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