on Being (one’s) Self

I know I am often critical of religion in its aristocracy but, recently, I came across this interesting wisdom:
“…Not that we [have the audacity to] venture to class or [even to] compare ourselves with some who exalt and furnish testimonials for themselves! However, when they measure themselves with themselves and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding and behave unwisely.” (2 Cor 10:12, Amplified Bible)
In our society that forces us compare ourselves with others and see how we measure up, I wonder, how many of us are truly discovering our strengths and following it. I can actually remember when I was younger and my dad was always concerned about how everyone else in my class was doing.
If I got a lesser grade he would remind me that the person who got a more was also a human being like me. And recently when he and I discuss the subject of uniqueness, he said, one has to set goal and choose mentors; how else can this be done if one doesn’t compare oneself with others.
Again I reminded him: “it’s not about comparing yourself with them (as mentors) but about  knowing yourself FIRST, after knowing yourself, finding a mentor comes next.” I gave an example of how many would want to Martin Luther, or a parents advising their kids to be doctors and lawyers, or engineers–we can’t all be shaped to be these things, some have the situation to be it, some not.
And I chipped in that’s one of the reasons I hate the Western educational system; it forces us to compare ourselves as though everyone was the same…alas, sometimes we can’t just help it.
Each of us
a once-in-a-life history event
Leaving on and living single
the discovery of uniqueness
Teach me to see myself as me
To remember that no on is me
to see them as they
no one can be them
Make me appreciate my weakness and strength
Because in all these I am me and they are them.

Leave a Reply