Love on Delusion II

Few days ago, I wrote about the delusion of relationships and the logical impossibility of love-on-first-site. However, my claims beg the question: what gets things started in the first place? After all, you don’t know the ‘inside’ of a person on first sighting, or can you instantly figure if this is someone  you will be liking or not–let me tsexualityhink deep about this…

While writing the first part of this post, I kept thinking if is is possible in the world we live in today, for a guy and a girl (assuming they are heterosexuals), to want to discover themselves without resorting to the sexualities. Reading the last statement, the quick response that might come to mind is, “you’ve got to be gay!” This is what our society has come to, sex. It’s all about sex, you are an object and it’s all about sex.

I‘ve attempted to understand the “getting” obsession. Not just sex-wise. We only get to help people we hope will help us sometime, we give to those we hope will give us back at some point, wait…I digressed. Wait, you may say, none of these answers the question I posed originally–when is the line drawn between thinking one likes, and truly liking?

Like the philosopher René Descartes who doubted all he knows to truly understand what he doesn’t know; I’m thinking it’s probably time for some re-learning; to forget [doubt] all we know about relationships. Forget ‘Sex and the City’, forget ‘People’ magazine, forget your mom’s tips on ‘attracting cool guys’, or your dad’s tips on ‘landing that chic’, whatever is that block we have erected in our head, forget them all!

Now they are forgotten. I’m thinking we can now start examining all we know about loving. What does a relationship truly mean to you? Can you handle one? Who are you? What do you truly want, in yourself and others?

As my friend and I continued the discussion (catch up here), I told her, we lie to ourselves a lot. And it’s hard to be honest as hard as we try. I continued, we can claim to ask ourselves important questions every now and then but, are the answers honest?


I have lied to myself and as i write this post, I’m struggling (maybe like you) to start giving myself honest answers and involving in meaningful relationships.

(Photo by mag3737)

11 Comments

  1. Damn it! I said I won’t comment but its so hard not to say anything lol. O well…
    First off there’s no love at first sight. NEVER.not even in a month or so. It takes time to understand someone, to know them, and THEN u realize u love them or u don’t. So wat gets things started then? Umm I really don’t know. I’ve been struggling with this for years. I find it hard to believe that someone loves me after I’ve been with them for a day, a week, even a month. Cuz honestly I don’t truly love someone until I really know them.and that takes longer for some ppl, n not so long for others.but I’m more than certain that love doesn’t happen in a day or two. That’s y I feel its better to be friends first, get to know each other then if u like wat u see/feel and u think u can handle each others craziness then sure go ahead. But if not,then ur better off as friends.

  2. Damn it! I said I won’t comment but its so hard not to say anything lol. O well…
    First off there’s no love at first sight. NEVER.not even in a month or so. It takes time to understand someone, to know them, and THEN u realize u love them or u don’t. So wat gets things started then? Umm I really don’t know. I’ve been struggling with this for years. I find it hard to believe that someone loves me after I’ve been with them for a day, a week, even a month. Cuz honestly I don’t truly love someone until I really know them.and that takes longer for some ppl, n not so long for others.but I’m more than certain that love doesn’t happen in a day or two. That’s y I feel its better to be friends first, get to know each other then if u like wat u see/feel and u think u can handle each others craziness then sure go ahead. But if not,then ur better off as friends.

  3. You must have noticed that it did post. If you posted off mobile, it take a bit longer to appear “live” as, like I mentioned before, I have to manually approve it.

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