learning Confidence

I read this article a while ago using Eminem as a model for building confidence and I’m sharing one, I like Eminem; often times my confidence fails me and would need reminding myself that confidence might not be far fetched:

#1: You’re the only one with your story. Don’t be too timid to tell it.
“Don’t try to fit in when you can do what no one else can – tell your story from your perspective. You can’t be friends with everyone; the world’s wind will never crackle with that much kumbaya. But you can be your most authentic self, and when you are you will draw the right people to you, a whole lot easier.”

Though I preach uniqueness and try to differentiate myself from the stack, I often fail to realize that there can me only one me and there can only be only one story of me.

#2: Be Who You Are.
“Be true to your values and voice. Don’t break the layer of who you are, just to be more popular. It’s difficult to feel truly confident behind a facade that could shatter at any moment.”

#3: Use Honesty as an Asset.
“It’s easy to look at others and believe they have it easy. But everyone struggles with fear and vulnerability. If someone claims to live in the absence of struggle then they’re either telling a half truth or a whole lie.”

I want to learn this more, I want to accept my flaws and honestly accept me being human.

#4: Let Your Instincts be Your Guide.
“Cold logic is powerful, but sometimes it’s easiest finding inner confidence when moving away from calculation and toward a hunch. Trust yourself enough to rely on instinct, and you will coax the confidence inside you.”

11 Comments

  1. #1: yes there’s only 1 story of u. we are the same yet totally unique at the same time. it has taken me a very long time to realize that n i still struggle with it. at one point i was so hard on myself that one of my friends said “look, there’s only 1 saba in the world. if u dont vote for urself, who’s gona vote for u?! nobody! cuz we all love ourselves. if u cant love urself, who’s gona take the chance n love u? nobody!”

    #2: its impossible to please everyone AND urself at the same time. u can only be you, thats y ur here. if anyone else could do the job of being u, then u wont exist 🙂 its one thing to help someone (not to please anyone) and another to fake being someone else just so the other person would like u. and really it just hurts ppl when they find out u were faking.

    #3: sigh…honesty 🙂 its very difficult. but once u get over it n accept, it gets easier. clearly im still struggling with it. my advice would be to surround urself with ppl who WILL tell u wats wrong with u. not the ppl who dont wana “offend” u. cuz sometimes it does take a slap in the face to wake ppl up. but there’s always a more gentle way to do it 🙂 i’d prefer the gentle, less aggressive way. its more abt how u deliver it, not wat u say 🙂

    #4: dele u’ve come a looooong way to realize that hunches do mean something 🙂 when we first started talking, u were ALL abt cold logic. thank u for that, i truly appreciate this change :*

  2. #1: yes there’s only 1 story of u. we are the same yet totally unique at the same time. it has taken me a very long time to realize that n i still struggle with it. at one point i was so hard on myself that one of my friends said “look, there’s only 1 saba in the world. if u dont vote for urself, who’s gona vote for u?! nobody! cuz we all love ourselves. if u cant love urself, who’s gona take the chance n love u? nobody!”

    #2: its impossible to please everyone AND urself at the same time. u can only be you, thats y ur here. if anyone else could do the job of being u, then u wont exist 🙂 its one thing to help someone (not to please anyone) and another to fake being someone else just so the other person would like u. and really it just hurts ppl when they find out u were faking.

    #3: sigh…honesty 🙂 its very difficult. but once u get over it n accept, it gets easier. clearly im still struggling with it. my advice would be to surround urself with ppl who WILL tell u wats wrong with u. not the ppl who dont wana “offend” u. cuz sometimes it does take a slap in the face to wake ppl up. but there’s always a more gentle way to do it 🙂 i’d prefer the gentle, less aggressive way. its more abt how u deliver it, not wat u say 🙂

    #4: dele u’ve come a looooong way to realize that hunches do mean something 🙂 when we first started talking, u were ALL abt cold logic. thank u for that, i truly appreciate this change :*

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