An Age of Socials: Disappearing faces of 'real'.

I remember as a child growing up in the city of Lagos, Nigeria. Honking cars, children running around in their undies rolling ‘wheels’ around, some looking over their parents small corner shops, some playing ‘police and thief’, or those playing soccer on the street running back and forth between carefree drivers. This is the typical day in the life of a kid in my day — real relationships, real people. Fast foward to this age, we now have computers, real people and fake relationships. Social networks and the fast lif, the culture and the education, all keeps making us further away from real people and real relationships.

Facebook, MySpace, hi5, Twitter etc. in all the names they come, how much have them become integrated into our life. Nowr, all this have made every lives an open book, we have now all become superficial. Of course, it helps in increasing your network, so has it helped in increasing our fallacies. 

Facebook asks: "What is on your mind?", Twitter wonders "what are you doing?", and we answer to them all, we’re are fake.

Everytime I log into Facebook, I see people in smiling faces in the ‘Photo’ section, ‘in a relationship’, and 500 and something friends, great! But wait, when we see this folk in the real world, they seem lonelier than a fire hydrant. Where are the real relationships? Where are the real happy faces, when would we want to portray the we we are — obvious not a gap social networks will be bridging soon.

Social netoworks and real human relationship I consider them compliments not replacements. I’m looking forward to having us develop true and real friendship, not the kind that relies on a give-and-take. I time when your best friend is not your computer screen but a being with flesh and blood.

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  1. Full disclosure: I don't have a Facebook account, but I have a Twitter acct.

    Initially Facebook was designed to link people on one campus remember? It was to be an intranet of each campus. Then, it opened up to the world.

    The issue with Facebook is that it's no longer local, yet we as humans are no longer local. We have friends that have moved to other cities, states, and even countries. Social networks like facebook were there to help people maintain these authentic relationships. Unfortunately, it's difficult to maintain intimacy (in any type of relationship) without face time. So updates, pictures and videos just don't do it.

    There is a new network Around the Way emerging that may fill in some of the needs for a hyperlocal network. It seems more like Facebook meets Craigslist.

    Facebook is centered around that Dunbar number. Have you heard of the Dunbar number? I think you'd like it. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar_number

    In reality most of us have 8 to 15 ppl which enrich our lives, not 150.

  2. Dunbar. Reading about it for the first time today. And for the reason you stated, I strive to keep my Facebook friends to people I know in real-to-life. Of course many times, that's not feasible but I can say I know 85-90% of my Facebook friends in-person (at least meeting once before adding as friends).

    No tech would ever replace real human interaction, that one of the core reasons I love http://www.meetup.com/, it maintains that philosophy.

  3. How did you get the comment so fast? Did disqus alert you on Twitter or via email?

    Yes meetup still hasn't gone local like small town local.

    The social network that can create microcommunities in small towns will be the one to rule them all

  4. Dunbar. Reading about it for the first time today. And for the reason you stated, I strive to keep my Facebook friends to people I know in real-to-life. Of course many times, that's not feasible but I can say I know 85-90% of my Facebook friends in-person (at least meeting once before adding as friends).

    No tech would ever replace real human interaction, that one of the core reasons I love http://www.meetup.com/, it maintains that philosophy.

  5. How did you get the comment so fast? Did disqus alert you on Twitter or via email?

    Yes meetup still hasn't gone local like small town local.

    The social network that can create microcommunities in small towns will be the one to rule them all

  6. Full disclosure: I don't have a Facebook account, but I have a Twitter acct.

    Initially Facebook was designed to link people on one campus remember? It was to be an intranet of each campus. Then, it opened up to the world.

    The issue with Facebook is that it's no longer local, yet we as humans are no longer local. We have friends that have moved to other cities, states, and even countries. Social networks like facebook were there to help people maintain these authentic relationships. Unfortunately, it's difficult to maintain intimacy (in any type of relationship) without face time. So updates, pictures and videos just don't do it.

    There is a new network Around the Way emerging that may fill in some of the needs for a hyperlocal network. It seems more like Facebook meets Craigslist.

    Facebook is centered around that Dunbar number. Have you heard of the Dunbar number? I think you'd like it. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar_number

    In reality most of us have 8 to 15 ppl which enrich our lives, not 150.

  7. Dunbar. Reading about it for the first time today. And for the reason you stated, I strive to keep my Facebook friends to people I know in real-to-life. Of course many times, that's not feasible but I can say I know 85-90% of my Facebook friends in-person (at least meeting once before adding as friends).

    No tech would ever replace real human interaction, that one of the core reasons I love http://www.meetup.com/, it maintains that philosophy.

  8. How did you get the comment so fast? Did disqus alert you on Twitter or via email?

    Yes meetup still hasn't gone local like small town local.

    The social network that can create microcommunities in small towns will be the one to rule them all

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